A friend of mine was recently on a vacation with her husband and was recounting some of their outings. She talked about how her husband enjoyed getting out and exploring new areas and said she really loved and appreciated his “spirit of adventure.” What a lovely thing to not only see, but value in your partner.
I’ve been married almost 14 years and my husband and I definitely have a bit of a yin and yang dynamic in our partnership. I’m a planner and a list maker. He’s a “let’s do it now” action man.
We’ve had our share of conflict when those two approaches went head to head in a situation, but more and more we’ve grown to appreciate these parts of each other.
There is a lot of good advice out there for making your relationships last and most of it has some version of “Act like it just started.” Definitely, keep it fresh, but don’t underestimate what time and experience can do to help you appreciate each other and learn to see that what you thought were bugs turn into some of your favorite features.